Going to court to try to resolve a dispute can be a lengthy, costly process. In addition, it can also result in a decision you don’t like but will have to abide by. Most family lawyers will encourage you to reach an agreement with your partner and only recommend going to court as a last resort.
So why should you choose mediation instead of going to court?
For one, it’s quicker. Discussing an issue with your partner in front of a mediator often means that the issue is resolved right there and then. It’s much faster than
- Talking to your lawyer about the issue
- Waiting for your lawyer to draft a letter to your partner’s lawyer
- Waiting for your partner’s lawyer to talk to your partner before responding to your lawyer
- Waiting for your lawyer to tell you what your partner’s response is
All of this can take a while – and if you imagine that you’re not happy with your partner’s response to your query, you can start this dance all over again. Having a face to face discussion – even if it’s difficult and at times emotional – is a much quicker way of dealing with your issues.
Using mediation for your divorce is not just faster, it’s also cheaper. If you are experiencing a divorce or separation, there are many issues that need to be resolved – from how your children are looked after to the question of where you will each live and how to divide your finances. If you need legal assistance to resolve each issue, charges will soon start to add up.
In mediation, the mediator will help and encourage you to resolve many of these issues yourself, helping to reduce the cost of your divorce.
And one final point about mediation that is just as important as speed or cost: reaching an agreement with your partner through mediation will often help you have a better relationship after your divorce and will make the separation easier for your children. In addition, it will also give you a measure of closure and allow you to move on with your life more quickly than if you argue your way through the courts. When parents separate it is never going to be easy for the children. But it is conflict between parents rather than their separation which can cause harm.