Your children are perhaps the main reason to consider mediation as it can help parents find ways of co-operating and indeed co-parenting into the future.
Your children do not want to see you arguing. Research clearly shows that children can cope better with their parents’ separation, if parents can co-operate rather than be in conflict.
Mediation children’s issues can:
- Enable parents to explore your children’s needs and preferences
- Help to identify ways of communicating in the future
- Help parents discuss issues such as routines and ideas about discipline
- Help you and your children deal with the fact that your family is changing. Each child needs to be treated individually and it may take a while before everyone settles into a new family structure
- Enable parents together to explore how their children may view the separation
This raises the issue of what to tell your children, when and how. Do your children need a voice? See Child Consultation.